Giving a eulogy

It's been said that one of people's biggest fears is public speaking. Add to that the stress of grief, and it becomes clear that giving a eulogy can be very difficult for some people. The Ontario Funeral Service Association offers the following tips for keeping your composure while accomplishing an emotional task.

Remember: * The funeral is for those grieving .

* Use the deceased's name.

* Speak about the unique qualities of that person; you may include family history, important career or personal highlights, etc.

* Keep your eulogy brief enough to say what you need to say and to ease the pain of those present; no need to talk for any great length of time .

* You can use different forms of technology (computer, music, video, etc.)

* It's okay to use humour (but keep it appropriate!) - people enjoy hearing about the anecdotes that are part of our lives .

* Be sincere .

* Consult with family and clergy to determine their desires and any possible restrictions in the service itself.

* If you become upset when giving a eulogy, take a moment to compose yourself; everyone will understand .

* If you feel you are simply not up to speaking, it's okay to ask the clergy or another person to read it for you.